Two words, that can mean different things. So close…
Before the game we stopped by NFL GameDay and they were recording, we were on TV and we know it because you could see the Bengals flag we were waving, lol. Kurt Warner came over to give autographs, I was so close I could have simply reached out and touched him. Instead I took a selfie with him in the background.
They had all kinds of great activities set up outside the stadium and even had the Vince Lombardi (Super Bowl Trophy) set up in a case and you could get so close to it that you could touch the glass case that it was in.
I sat front row in the end zone of a Super Bowl that the Cincinnati Bengals played in. My seats were so close the the action.
Our seats were just above sweets where Usher, The Weekend and other celebrities watched the game. We were so close we could see what they were doing on their phones.
One of the people we were with had an Orange Bengals flag they dropped over the edge where we were sitting and each time an extra point or field goal was made you could see the flag. I was so close to being on tv several times.
And of course, my beloved Cincinnati Bengals were so close to winning their First Super Bowl…
As you can see, how those two words are used can greatly impact your reaction. Most of what I listed brought me back to memories where I smiled and laughed. But that last one, not so much.
I wrestled with how much to share, but ultimately I know people are going to ask. The experience was absolutely amazing. SoFi Stadium is incredible! The energy from Bengals fans all weekend was fun to experience. The friends we were with made the whole thing amazing. Even the game itself was exciting to watch. It was so close to being perfect!
As the game wore down in the 4th quarter we just didn’t make enough plays to win the game. We were so close. I was so close from experiencing the euphoria of watching the Bengals win their First Super Bowl. So close to soaking in everything that would go with it, the confetti, the jubilation of the players, the trophy presentation, all of it. Sadly it wasn’t meant to be.
As Joe Burrow desperately tried to make a play as he was being sacked by one of the best defenders to arguably play the game my emotions quickly shifted. Just moments before that play I was excited, expectant and in all honestly as nervous as I’ve ever been watching a football game. Then the ball hit the turf and all hope was gone. We failed to gain 1 yard in 3 plays to extend the drive. That last heroic effort by Joe Burrow was so close to extending the drive.
When the ball hit the turf and it was all over a rush of emotions came over me. Anger, frustration, disappointment, numbness, just to name a few.
It’s easy to point fingers at the officiating, and yes I agree they really didn’t call it both ways in the last 2 minutes. If you’re going to let them play, let both teams play. If you are going to start calling it close at the end, do it both ways. But the reality is we still had a chance and we just didn’t get it done, we were so close.
All that to say, what a ride. It was a great season, but the way it ended hurts. I hate how much it hurts. Again I’m reminded that I take a football game way too serious. I’ve been in a haze for days now. It’s painful to think about, which is sad because the experience was amazing. The blessing of all the people that helped make this dream happen, the way the doors opened for me to be able to go I’m eternally grateful. I really am. But, it was so close to being perfect, so close to being even more than I could have ever imagined.
I’ve been asked if it was worth going. Was it worth the expense, because at the end of the day it was still expensive to go even with my ticket being purchased for me. My answer is a resounding YES! BUT… It sure would have been even more worth it had we won.
At some point I’ll move on. At some point the emotional haze I feel will dissipate. At some point this game will be in the rearview and the future of this team will get me excited again. At some point I will be able to truly look back and reflect on the whole experience. It just isn’t right now. I am still too close to that final play and the feeling of what if, and could have.
Most people won’t understand why a football game has such and impact on me. Some might even say it shouldn’t have such an impact on me. Others might be in the same boat I am in. I guess the best example I can think of at the moment is planning your dream outdoor wedding, but on the day of the wedding it storms and rains all day. Does that mean the wedding was ruined or that it changes how you feel about each other? Of course not, but it sure would have made the wedding more enjoyable and maybe even more fulfilling had it worked out to be a beautiful, picture perfect 75 degree day, just like you planned.
So today the game will roll around in my head. All the missed plays, all the missed calls, all the questions that come with a typical football game. Tonight as I try to go to sleep I’ll wonder how different I would be, the city would be had we found a way to win. I’ll wonder if I’ll ever get to see the Bengals play in another Super Bowl and win one before my time on this earth is over. I’ll wake up in the middle of the night thinking about that last play and if Joe Burrow just had another second and was able to hit Chase down the sideline, who was wide open and wonder how that would have felt.
Maybe tomorrow I’ll begin to move on and begin to lift the haze. But right now, I’m so close to the game, to the moment of defeat that I can’t celebrate the good. I can only live in what could have been. But there will be a day when I’m not so close and my despair will turn into hope. And when that day comes, it will be a New Dey!